1. Believe that there are NO absolutes and question broad generalizations. If an anonymous commenter said, "All private schools are better then all public schools" OR "The artwork on the private school walls are clearly better then the artwork on the public school walls" OR "All the children and parents at this private school are entitled snobs" OR "Most teachers find the brightest and best high school students are from this school." It should raise a red flag and you should ignore such a commenter (chances are they are a troll). We ALL know the world is much more complicated than that. If you need to respond, respond with facts.
2. Be weary of "scripted" responses to any criticisms of private or public schools. I'm pretty certain some of them are from parents, teachers, and administrators of schools that are trying to maintain a better public image and are not the unbiased reports from "anonymous." This leads me to the next tip…
3. Take comments and blog posts with a grain of salt. Use issues raised to ask further questions when you actually tour the school or talk to a parent/teacher/staff member you know and trust at the school. Form your own opinion.
4. If you think something is mean-spirited or crazy, ignore the comment. It's just not worth it. Nobody wins comment wars. But if you just have to respond, be witty and not moody.
5. Get advice from Parents for Public Schools! Ignore advice and rumors on how to “win the lotto” from anonymous. Parents for Public Schools is legit. Send them an email and they get back to you quickly.
6. Do not take the bloggers or commenters school decisions personally. Okay, so a blogger or two may have passed on your dream school. You are not them, they are not you. Their child is not your child. And they could not give you their school placement, even if they wanted to. In the end, the decision is very personal (for the family making it).
7. Believe in SF Public Schools and have an open mind. There are some real hidden gems if you can just give-up your list of "must-haves." You need to find them for yourself.
BONUS: Talk to other parents face-to-face: the mamas and papas at your preschool, at your work place, and in your neighborhood. Discuss these things in person and get advice and information from people you actually TRUST, not these unknown school-obsessed weirdos who frequent this blog daily (me included).