Have you ever hurled your phone across the room after finishing a conversation with your spouse? I did that once and broke the phone—so I swear I'll never do it again.
But when my husband, Ryan, called me the other day, I practically had to hold my right hand back with my left to prevent myself from doing it again. I was so frustrated! I sent him on a tour of a school that I had already visited. It's one that I like and I'm trying to determine how to rank it on my list. I asked him to help me make the decision.
He called me on my cell right after the tour. "I can't picture Alice there," he said. "I don't think we should include it on the list."
What? Why? Are you serious? Tell me why? I wanted an explanation.
He struggled to explain. "It seems like a good school but I don't see Alice there," he kept saying again and again.
Thus far, Ryan and I have been on the same page. He's only toured about a quarter of the schools I've visited but we've shared the same opinions on those we've both seen. He's Alice's father and the love of my life, so I have to take his feelings into consideration—but I told him that I can't simply cut the school from my list. And so he came up with the idea that we'll both visit the school a second time. It was his idea, honest.
Has anyone had a similar experience with a partner or spouse? What do you do when one person loves a school and the other hates it?