In my household, I'm in charge of finding a kindergarten. I won't attempt to explain how my husband would approach the process if he were overseeing it—but I will say that when our daughter was born he entered diaper changes and feeding and sleeping times into an Excel file and created bar graphs. If he was doing the school search, I'm sure it would involve lots of math, which makes sense because he is a scientist.
A few weeks ago my husband and I agreed that I'm the head of the school search and we developed a simple plan: I'll scout 15 to 20 public schools throughout October and early November, and then I'll pick my top seven, which he'll visit at the end of November. We also decided to look at four private schools and attend those tours together.
This week we already deviated from our plan because I'm enamored with Alice Fong Yu and I wanted him to visit it asap. I was terribly nervous when he was gone on the tour yesterday. What if he hates it? I kept thinking. I've heard from so many people who have been through the process that partners often don't agree.
We got lucky and Ryan also loved Alice Fong Yu. Though he asked entirely different questions during the tour's meeting with the principal. While I asked about field trips, the PTA, and arts programs, he asked how many siblings are hoping to get in next year, how many kids got in last year, and so on. And then he did lots of math and he determined that we have a 10 percent chance of getting into the school. Now, I'm depressed!
Anyone have stories about going through the school search with a partner? Any tips?